Twenty Five Years And More Than Twenty Five Thousand Emergencies Have Taught Me!

It's been the absolute best... and worst job I could ever have imagined. When I started out as a paramedic/firefighter in 1981 I had no idea how much my attitude would affect the ability of others to benefit from my treatment.

Sure, I had the training and the tools to treat people who were in "crisis mode" but the simple truth was, they were only effective as long as I deployed them with the right temperament, the right frame of mind.

What I began to discover however was just how much our personality affects the world around us. Sadly, most of the time we act as if it's the other way around. I was able to see first hand and frequently just how much I was able to "sell" my patients on the idea of getting better simply by the way I carried myself.

I began to notice that it wasn't only my patients that responded... I could alter the behavior of others simply by changing my mood. I reflected on how I had done this purposely and for short periods of time throughout my life. Whenever I wanted to woo a girl or persuade someone to my point of view I had to "get my head straight."

When I started helping others find products and services they wanted and/or needed, I found that I had to be in a certain frame of mind for a much longer period of time. In fact, I needed to change some things about my personality permanently! That's when I started looking closely at just what makes up our temperament.

Having been an Instructor and Instructor Trainer in the Fire Service for many years I was trained to help adults learn new information and gain new skills. In short, I would change their behavior. So I applied the same set of skills as if I was creating a class for my students. I wrote "From D.E.S.P.A.I.R. To P.R.A.I.S.E.D!" as a result.

I named it that because if you look, DESPAIR and PRAISED have the exact same letters in them. The positions of the letters have been altered to create a totally different meaning. That is similar to the focus of the book. We have seven personality traits we alter to create a completely different emotional state, for a moment or for a lifetime.

Putting my thoughts into this "How To" manual for designing your own personality clarified my own feelings and actions and has helped me become the right person for many situations since. It gave me a way of rating myself in the seven categories and then monitor my progress as I made changes. I even included suggested activities.

I feel this concept is so vital I want to share it with the world and so now you can get a copy absolutely free by signing up to have it shipped to you instantly via download. If you want to be more effective in dealing with others and yourself you owe it to yourself to get a copy now!

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One of the main benefits of working in Emergency Services is the frequent opportunity to problem solve. In fact, if I had to confess to any one skill that has helped me more than any other that would be it. Working within a structured organization has also been immensely helpful!

When I went through Incident Command System (ICS) training I immediately saw the benefits of how this type of thought process could be useful to people from all walks of life. It's purpose is to help us navigate through difficult times in our lives and who doesn't have difficulties at times?

By assembling resources, using a common strategy and language, and putting it all into a structure that is flexible enough to expand and contract depending on the size of the incident, desired outcomes are much more likely. Now throw in tactics that are applied depending on the nature of the incident and you have a recipe for success.

This same philosophy is powerful in the day-to-day operations of our lives... in fact, they can help wipe out the need for emergency actions in all but the rarest of circumstances. And even then they can lessen the negative impact of these emergencies.

The ICS For CSIs (Incident Command System For Chronically Stressed Individuals) is what resulted from this epiphany. As a result, I have become a resource collecting "junkie" whenever I come across something I think I will be able to use to help me get some of my messages out to as many as I can.

Don't get me wrong... I wouldn't call myself a "guru" in any sense of the word! But I read once in my studies to become a professional speaker that if you're going to get up in front of others you should be either an expert or a witness.

Well, I am an expert in some things and I am drawing on those experiences to help others on this and my other sites; but mostly I am sharing with you my witness of what it is and has been like getting to where I am and how I plan to get where I want to go with all this.

Believe me, I am nobody special... in fact, I promise you this, anything I have accomplished anyone with average intelligence, physique, and drive can accomplish. I used to say, "I don't want to work at life too hard." But I have come to find that you do get out of life what you're willing to put into it. Still, I am nowhere close to what you'd call a workaholic. I just do the things I enjoy doing and it doesn't seem like work.

If there is any "secret" to success I thinks that's it! Just as long as what you enjoy doing has benefits for others. If you think life is all about you, you're going to be going down a very lonely road! I love this quote I found somewhere along the way... "To be remembered by other, forget about yourself."

That's why one of my mottoes is, "Don't take this life too seriously... but don't ever take it for granted!" It helps me stay a little more humble and reminds me to laugh at life a little. That's why I developed a program "How To Increase Your Health, Wealth, And Stealth Through Humor!"

I don't think there is enough of the right kind of laughter in the world. I made a bunch of bumper stickers one time that read "They who die with the most JOYS win!" Because we seem to be so wrapped up in this rat race and we feel that we have to succeed all too often at someone else's expense... and it just isn't so.

And unfortunately we have these media that tend to escalate that trend. For example I see these license plate holders that read "My grandkids are cuter than yours" or "my kid just beat up your honor student" and I'll admit I even chuckle at these sometimes; but sentiments like this... or even worse cartoons like "Beavis and Butthead," South Park", or "The Simpsons" increase our acceptance of put down humor.

As we become accustomed to more and more examples of questionable character, situational ethics, and "me first" mentality we need even more intense examples to elicit the same response. And it becomes a vicious circle of shocking behavior in the name of entertainment. I love the sentiment that blowing out someone else's candle will never make yours burn brighter.

"How To Increase Your Health, Wealth, And Stealth Through Humor!" attempts to provide some standards, some expectations, some guidelines for determining when humor is constructive or destructive. One of the most important concepts in the whole program however is that we need to take ownership of our feelings.

You see none of the examples I gave above of objectionable humor offend me. In fact, very little in the world offends me... that's because in order for me to be offended I have to make the conscious or unconscious choice to be offended. And it's OK to be offended as long as I realize that I am choosing to be offended and that I am aware of what it is that offends me.

I use a lot of humor in my teachings and presentations because humor is one of those rare forms of energy that can be synergistic. By that I mean even though a humorous experience can be very energetic, it rejuvenates rather than fatigues and often in the end you have more and better results with less effort.

A good example of this is in a program I developed called "The Business Of Bedside Manner!" because so often it is our Bedside Manner in life that determines how well we're received. The movie and television series M.A.S.H. was extremely popular because through all the stress of wartime surgery and interpersonal relationships, the main characters were able to keep us and everyone around them in stitches (pardon the pun.) ;)

My favorite poet is Robert Service who lived early in the 20th Century. He had many life experiences including being a medic in World War I. He wrote a book of poetry titled "The Rhymes Of A Red Cross Man" Can you imagine putting the horror of the battlefield to poetry? But what a writer! If you want to read a great experience of life, read perhaps his best known poem, "The Spell Of The Yukon"

"The Business Of Bedside Manner!" shares what I believe are the four main "Abilities" needed to of be a C.A.R.E.giver. Cred-Ability, Avail-Ability, Response-Ability, and Empath-Ability.

I also want to make sure that you are not misled into thinking I don't care for profit or monetary gain. I believe we need to strike a reasonable balance between taking from this life and giving back to this life. But this life has so much to offer and we can do so much with the right resources that I feel we are remiss if we aren't applying ourselves to the task.

Much more importantly is the question of who or what is driving our life! We all have a chance to be heroic. You see, even though what I do for a living has given me the title of "hero" by many others... I personally don't believe there are any heroes... or heroines. I believe there are only acts of heroism!

Sometimes we have more opportunities to perform acts of heroism that put us in the public spotlight. But, all of us have opportunities for performing acts of heroism everyday. Here is my definition of heroism... when the right person, does the right thing, for the right reason, at the right time.

Doing the "right thing" often requires accumulating resources in order to perform. Diligently preparing to meet whatever Life throws at us is an act of heroism. Many times that requires keeping our shoulder to the cart but that doesn't mean we have to plod along if there is a better way of attaining our objective.

That's one of the reasons I am so interested in Networking with the right people! When I was on the Technical Rescue Team we would practice over and over in creating haul systems... configurations of ropes and pullies that gave us leverage and mechanical advantage for lifting someone up over a cliff or out of a trench.

Network Marketing allows us to create systems that provide monetary advantage and leverage that give us the financial freedom and the treasure of time by multiplying our efforts and energy through others.

That's why I had a book ghostwritten to my specifications on the topic of accumulating wealth... "How To Turn Trash, Trends, And Trivia Into Treasure" is a simple but powerful three step process that has been proven to succeed for thousands of years. You owe it to yourself to check out this step-by-step guide to creating wealth in any economy.

I also believe in aligning myself with other like minded individuals and organizations. The old saying "Practice makes perfect!" has been modified to a more accurate version, "Perfect practice makes perfect!" If we want to be consistent then we spend our time and energy in ways that are consistent with how we want to give back to the world!

As a result, I am a huge supporter of Attraction Marketing which is consistent with my philosophy of helping others succeed and sharing the skills and resources that help you be successful in Life. Network Marketing is a relationship intensive industry. I love how Debra Fine puts it in The Fine Art Of Conversation! "All things being equal, people do business with their friends... all things not being equal, people still do business with their friends!"

Similarly, Magnetic Sponsoring is focused on developing a group with which you can combine your efforts and experience better results with less stress as a result of your efforts!

Yet another marketing community I belong to is Rod Moore's Total MLM System. As with the others, the focus is on developing a community of like minded people with whom I can grow and communicate in mutually rewarding conversations.

One of the benchmarks I use for evaluating any business opportunity is a system I developed while I was selling newspaper subscriptions. You can find out more about it by asking me. Network Marketing is especially well suited to applying this process and I'll be going much more in depth on this later. In fact, I feel I really should write a book explaining this concept in much more detail.

Let me use the Network Marketing I love to share with others, PrePaid Legal, as an example of how this system can be applied. You will see why I get so excited about this opportunity.

First of all, let's look at the potential prospect. The top 10% of the population can afford lawyers on retainer... the bottom 10% get legal aid. So that leaves 80% that could use legal resources. Assuming of course that the resources offered would be something of use to the general population.

Which takes us to the second component of the 3D3P system... Product. In this case, the product is a suite of services delivered by a Provider Firm that renders identity theft protection, contract interpretation, warranty enforcement, consultation, traffic violation representation (some exclusions apply), will preparation, and discounted services for anything that is not directly covered.

Bridging the gap between the prospect and the product are the Presentation materials developed and provided by the company. The presentation materials for PrePaid Legal are first class... from printed materials, to CD, DVD, Combo materials, to programs broadcast over "Court TV". Support and incentives are built into the program!

It wasn't difficult to decide that it would behoove me to begin developing a community of my own following the precepts I've discussed here. Surrounding myself with similar minded individuals, couples, and families is a logical progression to where I'm going with my life.